Which I totally dislike because I fear for my baby. Always paws you to pet him, licks your hands so you can pet him, followed you everywhere, and always wants to cuddle. Eventually i was allowed in the bed, but the dogs keep jumping on and off from the bed and they shed hair EVERYWHERE. The dog has not done anything wrong. Amen this is so true y cant everyone understand this. I cant stay in the kitchen (where they stay) because they bother me. Im just so overwhelmed. So now I find that every time we watch a movie or do anything shes right there on the couch with him while Im the third wheel. Husband/boyfriend does. Copyright 2007 - 2023 GoodTherapy, LLC. Dogs are animals! Here, I would set her up, with all sorts of examples and bingo, it works, but while training this, I dont harp on the other stuff, just a little reminder. You are not crazy!!! I keep telling myself that the novelty of having the dog will wear off and he will soon be back to giving me the kisses and cuddlesbut its hard to sit back and wait till that happens, and what if it doesnt. He repeatedly says how much he doesnt like him and talks about how its gross when he gets on the furniture. They are well behaved most of the time but like anything they love attension and cuddles and he just cannot bare them. My Shi-poo was only about 1.5 yrs old. So I searched and searched for a tiny dog. Different breeds were actually bred for different reasons, and its funny because hardly any pet owner actually harnesses that energy and trains their dog what they are bred to do, especially terrier or bully breeds. However he gets on my nerves because he demands too much attention from my boyfriend which brings issues between me and my boyfriend. 5. I am a light sleeper and cannot sleep with snoring (she is a pug and snores quite loud), not to mention Ive never liked having a dog sleep in my room. Understand that each can be a part of your life if you wise up and stop ruining your dogs life by allowing it to expect to live as a human. However, he rarely comes over after work and complains if I ask him to. Im losing my mind. They arent really bad and we dont allow them in the bedroom at night when we sleep. He did not cross that line, but he was definitely in love with his dog. Made him think about the entirety of this situation as well. I have bad experience right now and its boiling on depression for me. However, I have for the better part of 5 years been living/co-habitating with one dog or another in a 1000 sq ft with my now fiance. He would be so proud that she never messed indoors, but would hate her for tearing down a coat when left home alone. Chihuahuas love warm! They stitched me up and called the police, which I guess is standard operating procedure in a dog attack, but I refused to give up the information. But weve started talking about marriage and a life together. We do sleep in the same bed, but when she came, she began sleeping in the room with us. Were never too old or too young to learn about ourselves and our significant other and make our human relationship the truly beautiful experience it can be. I just want to say that I see both sides here. Without them, they push and push and there are no limits to the rebellion/ control. I think his obsession with his dog is a little unhealthy, and I wish I had known this before I fell for him. I dont mind dogs but dog is a dog not a baby and i expect them to behave as such that was agreed initially. But if you have tried to change things for his comfort, and he is still being mean I would wonder whats wrong with him. In fact, You will receive an abundance of complaints from the neighbors about your dogs loudness. Then, throwing that dog into a two (or more) person household, after having had the obsession/attention of their owner for so long, is a recipe for disaster. Im sticking to my guns. Suppose the dog bites your child got drew pretty much a considerable amount of blood and the child is afraid of canines, now the husband/boyfriend is correct beyond any doubt. He was darn right nasty to her most times. I dont think anyone willingly lets their dog stay in the bed while having sex with their partner I do agree that if the dog is taking up too much space, compromise is in order. The dog is all over the couch, and heaven for bit I leave anything on the couch that might stop the dog from getting on their at night to sleep; which the dog as an orthopedic bed that he bought him. That dog needs to go, and if your S/O refuses to get it in check, then perhaps you need to go as well. Animals are at the mercy of humans many who are cruel like your husband, they are innocent sentient being who will love you whatever you put them through. Anyway, fast forward to this last girlfriend. If you can just hang in there, things will probably get a whole lot better! I am fighting a losing battle. WOW!!!!! Dogs are animals they should not be sleeping In human beds. It simply would not be tolerated. I tell him he is making it worse, he reads that same thing and attempts to change his behavior for about a minute. This dog has none of that. I grew up with dogs, they will not die from having table scraps! Yes its shown that some dogs can even reach the level of a 4 year old in emotional processing. Hes taking his threats a bit rough, like taking the whole fingers in the mouth but I think hes gonna learn to take it gentle with some training. They lack human thought and cognitive ability but she trained them to misbehave by rewarding bad behavior. I dislike this dogs disposition but I can deal with that. They think that were overreacting because we dont like fur on our clothes. I went into the relationship not thinking my pets would be a problem,but since he has virtual power over the household, he has decided that they have to go. But Ive realized after these months Im not sure how I feel about the pet and if I can see myself pursuing a deep- marriage like relationship with her because of it. Also, every time we eat, he stands right next to us at the table breathing heavy and drooling and I tell him to go away and my wife tells me not to get mad at him. She paws and scratches at my side of th bed all night. He said that it had been almost a year since he was able to really be affectionate towards his wife. In my opinion you only making it worse and making him think he is the alpha male as he gets his way. It wont change believe me. He lied about liking animals and expects me to comply with his demand of putting them in a shelter, or else. Youd put an animal above a marriage? Ive literally slept in my vehicle with my clothes packed many times because I refuse to be humiliated and belittled over a animal. Not him. You deserve love, caring, respect, loyalty. I sit there trying to enjoy dinner while watching her dog on the couch hovering over her plate! Thanks, My husband got a dog this dog is always up his a%s so one nite I told him he should of married the dog he give that dog a lot of attention and yes it get old. The first months he really kept saying how he missed his dogs which always made me feel I dont matter. It is stressful for me as well but I seem to handle some things better. I informed him several times that the dog smells. Its treated better than me. Correct his mindset: As a wife/girlfriend, you should be able to correct his mindset. me and my partner both had dogs before we got together , he had 5 me 2 . Nothing major maybe a couple pieces of clothing in a laundry basket, then an unplugged phone cord and finally she went after the couch :\ my husband was not happy at all. I seen cute small dogs like miniature pinschers (I had one) it was a boy. I am so sorry that so many are having a terrible time with their pets and partners. I asked dont you care about my feelings & apparently in this issue he doesnt. The dog is his world and Im just a person who lives with him. Hes constantly in the kitchen looking for food to eat! I thought it spoke volumes of their relationship. Forgive me when I say this but as soon as I finally was able to graba hold of him I immediately ran inside the apartment, and started to hit him on his bum bum and yell at him! He has shows aggressiveness to me before as well. This sounds terrible but in less you are willing to spend the rest of your life taking care of her, the dog, your cat & whatever children you may produce you should get out before youre too deeply immersed into the relationship. He is the best thing that happened to me. Being vexed with the husband/boyfriend isnt a solution. It is almost like being married to both brothers. They are vulnerable and at the mercy of the worlds kindness or cruelty. A year later, I was asked to foster for a short while a blind cat called Pheobe and my boyfriend, now husband, reluctantly agreed. Before my husband came into my life not liking animals was a deal breaker for me. It breaks my heart that your husband is being careless and not helping you or his dog. Never cleaned and they sleep together, and he had insisted that doggy was in my 7000 bed ruining my Hermes bedding (bf said my problem). I really dont like all the shedding and constant licking but I compromised (foot of the bed at least, dog bed on floor at best) and I also wear earplugs. Run! Why is it that none of you get this until it is a human problem and then you still dont get that the dog isnt a human. Maybe its a type of avoidance technique, to create a world centered around their dogs so that they dont feel so lonely and can justify not having normal social relationships with others. He then cuddles the dog and the dog thinks he is doing good. Even today, shes now kept in the basement due to beginning stages of hip dysphasia, he only showers down there and takes her nightly after dinner a plastic plate of tidbits of our dinner to lick. They are destructive, conniving, manipulate little jerks.. i honestly LOVE animals, but I am beginning to HATE dogs.. Luckily I found a good odor eliminator Pro-Ban. Everything she does her licking, her staring, her panting. I never wanted her d*** greyhound and I certainly am not OK with the husky either. I cant watch her 24/7 to keep her from going upstairs to the kids room and getting their stuff or stealing food. Well I wonder why? I was just saying keep them out while we eat for 30 minutes! And she sheds alot! I really like this girl, and I overheard her tell my friends fiancee one night that she can see herself marrying me and hopes I propose to her within two years. But if I worked full time we would not have taken the dogs so how important can they be? Hes not fixed but her dog is. Litter boxes are so useful when training tiny puppies, as they dont know how to use bathrooms. My boyfriend stays the night with me sometimes and works overnight and sometimes when he comes home, my dog has jumped on the bed while Im passed out and he gets really annoyed. In all reality, we technically cannot be as loyal to our partners as an animal companion can be. He left his dog at his old house while we were still doing updates to list it (meanwhile he keeps telling me hes finding the dog a new home). I just dont know what to do. Tell your boyfriend to suck a dick and die. The dogs have never been vaccinated, dont get flea treatments or anti worm treatments and are taking up the entire couch and other human furniture and everything is covered in hair. Everytime he cries now if hes not in the bed which drives me nuts, I love dogs. This is the only thing we have ever fought about in 2 years together. :( any advice? Its everywhere is this for real?? I hate them. This dog has caused so many issues! We have often talked about moving to the country; I would say how much Id love to get a dog and train it, go on walks with it, etc. At this point my husband has basically given up on the dog and all responsibilities are on me. Suddenly he didnt want the dog sleeping with us. I used to love dogs, never again. He knew from the very beginning that I had several animals. If you attempt to put him another room, he will whine and cry until let out. The kids, 3. I feel like beau and I walk on eggshells every time hes around. Do you have friends or family that might take him? Its similar to the theory of our subconscious playing out in our dreams and that its a sign of our innermost desires. Things are getting bad. Why on earth would she even allow an argument to start over this. I cant continue to live in the house with this dog and his behavior. They cant see pass their own noses. Youve already closed your mind before you started. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Its possible that letting your pet wash mouth sores could spread them (cause immediate additional sores), but again, this is a virus under discussion. I fell in love with her puppy and wanted his brother which we did get. I like dogs, or liked them. They dont know any better. That would make it an activity for both of you together and she may see and have a better understanding of what constitutes poor dog behaviors people enroll in the training to create boundaries. Now he says that I am mean and there is no reason she cant sleep in our bed. I plan on keeping the mom and the babies will be adopted through the rescue I volunteer for. If you dont, he will cry and bark. It just is what it is. Even children need boundaries and structure for a happy well loved life. If so, that should happen anyway, but if your SO hates animals or has jealousy issues over your pet that is a big sign of future problems that have more to do with hat person than you or your pup/kitty/iguana/etc. Visit a shelter "just for fun.". Sounds cruel, but Im willing to suffer for my bf. I think instead of writing bad things about dogs you have to think about your loved ones not the dogs. Im married 13 years, we had a small dog for 8 years and she died from heart problems. I got married and moved in with my husband awhile ago and we adopted a dog shortly after. It truly is frustrating.. I didnt know this when I met her but I thought she would have gotten more normal since she wasnt alone anymore and telling me she found the man of her dreams and how hard it is to meet someone like me but we would get into arguments about the bulldogs? The most obvious reason is the lack of training and attention. My blood boils because she is a very smart dog and knows this is wrong. My mom told me if things had been different, I would have loved the dog. A mean landlord had a cat that do anything to stop it isometric refuse lee took the cat to a different town an.d found a new home all in secret. Now despite my efforts, the dog is destroying my garden, ripping out my roses especially. However I HATE HATE HATE fur! You dont need to do anything, she knows from the beginning your passion for your dog. Surely there are healthy ways to develop tolerance of some kind. Its a relief that Im not alone, but hard to believe that so many people are going through the same thing. As for our brains vs a dogs, oh my goodness. This is a fairly reasonable fact that you cannot deny. But I cant handle this. We just recently moved into a rental and my dog is now living with us full time. So, you will need to attend the dog doggy socialization class. I asked him to go with me but doubt he will. As soon as we leave he destroys the house. I am fine with (most) dogs but I absolutely cannot stand his dog anymore, its driving me crazy and giving me anxiety attacks! He gets ten days leave when the baby is born. Done! Thank you so much for your words of kindness and caution. No, you will not put my dog outside. All in all its a dog, not a person & even though he has strong feelings for them Im disappointed that he doesnt have stronger feelings about me. I know he would probably have a fit. All I want and preach to other people is compromise and Im still somewhere trying to find that. She sits there and just begs for constant attention, she emits the most awful depressed and anxious energy , she just wanders around the house and stands there with her head down in distress. I really dont even know where to start. But I cant say/see it that way. When we came back my mother in law, who has always disliked me, claimed that she could never do this favour again because she had become allergic to that particular cat, that he was annoying, loud, etc etc. Before reading this blog, I thought I was going crazy thinking the way I did or maybe that is the way my partner treats me. Hes had all that time to tell me about his dislike of dogs the first time he met my parents I asked him before we went in if he was okay with dogs and he said yes! But Im not. Right after bringing her home, our youngest cat saw her and freaked out, terrified. 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